What do straight men mean when they say I’m straight but that was the best sex of my life, and hope to see me again. Bill
Men who identify as str8 despite having sex with other men, are having a lack of vocabulary. They can’t identify with any of the words we have because of the cultural connotations that come with them. They feel that words like ”gay” or ”queer” or ”homo” also requires them to be a part of a certain scene, and that it emasculates them. They don’t have a word to describe themselves, and so they resort to the closest one they feel comfortable with – str8. Of course, there is also denial. Many men can’t deal with the stigma of suddenly belonging to a minority. It’s up to us who are comfortable with ourselves to have patience, and educate these men so that they can make the journey we once made. We need to bring them to the truth that homosexuality, androsexuality, is a natural state of men, and that they are not a minority for feeling these urges. We need to lead by example, and show them that homosexuality is the manliest state you can possibly be. Pull the veil from their eyes as it were. – Ben
I’m not afraid of labels, because they’re inevitable. We are a verbal species, and we need adjectives and labels to communicate. Sure, we can have very vague language in order to avoid labeling people wrongfully. Instead of using labels we can describe the man im great detail so that the one we’re talking to fully understand what the subject is all about. But think how impractical that would be. To every single time have to reiterate all the details. ”Such and such likes men, he also like this and that, and he is not like this and that etc etc etc”, or we can just say ”he’s gay”, and let all the details about him surface later. I say, we won’t cure hate and misunderstanding by erasing labels. We need to get rid of the stigma that comes with said labels instead. Ben