We should all be allowed and enabled to explore our sexuality, but we are first locked into societal definitions that quite often are binary. Long before puberty and therefore any approach of sexuality, boys are told what a real man is (and that is not gay) and sadly, girls are told the same bs. So by the time the body starts transforming, say from 10-11 yo onwards, we are already programmed. Girls will seek “bad boys” with all the dire consequences that has and boys will plunge into guilt, shame and at times despair when they have any sort of reaction with a male friend. Yet, when many people come forward claiming non-binary genders, society in vast numbers mocks them and reiterates that boys are boys and girls are girls. We are stuck in this loop. Acceptance of large changes in societal behaviour comes with time and volume. We may not like the idea of burning to death a woman because she is able to read, but 800 years ago, we probably all would have denounce her and gone to watch her die. Have we completed this change of attitude? not really, when seeing that woman reading, we probably still reflect more on what she’s wearing. The attitude towards gay men is still rather primitive. Then is the attitutde towards the others. Given the choice, I’d pick a woman for sex. But getting a man inside me is a great pleasure I truly seek and enjoy. My label is therefore bi-sexual. Can I claim it? with risks. Is it enoug to describe me? no. I feel my sexuality is confused by years of bad education about it. I wish we were more open about it. But in a society that is not intellectually and morally prepared to establish and accept any connections between the wonderful magical event that is birth and the sex activities that took place 9 months prior, we still have a very long way to go.

Anon

What a great question. 1-Having a dream doesn’t make anything tangible. 2-Having actual sex with a person of the same sex won’t make you gay just as much as having straight sex won’t make you straight???? Geeezus people…get over yourself. What is missing here is the fact that young men aren’t educated by real men about sexuality and I am not talking physical…but as a mentor. When I was young I resisted being gay. One time I had a wet dream with a woman in it and I was like YAAAA I am not gay lol…WRONG lol. But I believe that 99% of wet dreams are homosexual based and that straight guys are afraid to acknowledge this fact. I have many wet dreams where I am sucking my own dick (what does that mean lol) and in the end…it’s a wet dream…YAAAA. As men, we need to let the young men know that waking up with morning wood when your buddy stays over doesn’t make you gay. Having an erection in the gym showers doesn’t make you gay just as much as having an erection in math class doesn’t make you a pervert lol. Stop the if-then routine and use the Hey…I like this…and be yourself.

BCHNCA

Men should explore their sexuality and enjoy the pleasures of having sex with other men. Stop labeling things but enjoy their bodies and enjoy brotherly love. If they don’t they will miss out on the fullness of complete sexual pleasure.

Tyler

8 thoughts on “Educated By Real Men

  1. In high school our guidance counselor thought I would make a good priest. I don’t think I would have made a good priest.

    1. Philip, if I’d been your guidance counselor I’d have tried to steer you into a different direction entirely. You turned out to be a very handsome hunk, lying there on that fluffy bunny fur rug. Inviting pose,too, with a sly, slightly tough smirk.
      The body is fine, and your package looks like a real beauty. I was an altar boy – and a practicing Catholic – even considered the priesthood when I was young. Until I snapped out of it. Room for one more on your rug? I’m sure you’ll have plenty of company there. Thanks for the photo.

  2. We are a verbal species, and so we can’t escape labels. We need them to communicate. To call for their abolishment is to go down a very dangerous path, where communication is greatly hampered. This is exactly what the ”woke” ”SJW” agenda is all about. They’ve now created a verbal minefield that’s almost impossible to navigate, all so that tiny minorities of snowflakes won’t feel excluded, misunderstood, misrepresented, underrepresented, disrespected, harrassed, TRIGGERED, etc.
    All over social media they plaster their preferred pronouns (one for each day of the week), and their 3page lists of ”trigger warnings”… and you better fucken sign off on them or be ”cancelled”, shadowbanned, silenced.

    You will realize that once all those evil labeld have been eradictated or split into a thousand different subcategories,, we’ll be more limited than when we had simple descriptives to begin with. Until we’re augmented with telepathy, labels are the best thing we have.

    To continue my little soapbox diatribe, I for one love the binary. Without it, there can be no contrast between the masculine and the feminine. Everything would just be an androgynous mess. Suddenly there are no men, only ”males”.
    A Man has a strong sense of gender identity, unwavering. A ”male” is just a person with a cock. That may be insanely attractive to some, but not to me.

    Boys and men have been exploring their same-sex attractions for ages. They (we) do so nowdays to an extent that hasn’t been seen since the days of the Ancient Greek, and that’s a good sign.

    The thing we really need to fix small minded people and their prejudice against those who defy the norms – and trust me we’re not gonna succeed in doing that by simply overturning all the definitions, going ”woke”, and playing the pronoun game, and all that bullshit.

    We need to learn how to live and let live. Everyone is not cast from the same mold. We need to accept that some people are taking different routes in life – and THEY need to accept that not everyone is gonna bend over backwards for them! They need to get TF over themselves, and stop being perpetually triggered victims, and grow a thicker skin.

    As such I respectfully decline to reliquish my tradtional Manhood, my somewhat excluding sexual prefs, and I refuse to change my pronoun usage. I also reserve the right to give no shits about people’s trigger warnings.

    *Stepping down from soapbox*

  3. My daughter has been taught, from as soon as she started asking, that love is love and that relationships between two people of the same sex is perfectly natural. Transgender people are beautiful and very misunderstood. Men are men, women are women. If you are attracted to either that is absolutely perfect and that her choice would be more than welcomed in our home.

  4. Men should explore their sexuality and enjoy the pleasures of having sex with other men. Stop labeling things but enjoy their bodies and enjoy brotherly love. If they don’t they will miss out on the fullness of complete sexual pleasure.

  5. Well, I’m Lakota. The way we teach about sex is typically a slightly older guy, ideally a brother or cousin, answers questions. No actual contact tho. Though it is understood that carrying sperm around without release for too long is unhealthy, but also there are so many times we can’t be with a woman.

    A quick aside: No, no one in the Middle Ages was executed for literacy. There are even saints who are patrons of the written word. It was just not considered practical to teach everyone. I blame Washington Irving, who came up with a lot of silly stories about earlier times. He also said Columbus discovered the world was round. Only about twenty centuries off.

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