Mr Cox, First of all I’d just like to say that I really like your site. Secondly I wonder if you could offer some advice here. I’m a 32 year old male who has never had penetrative sex with either a man or a woman. I’ve often wondered why this is. Without wishing to sound vain I’m not physically unattractive and I’m a pleasant person to be with. I’ve always enjoyed masturbation and I’ve experimented with a vibrator on myself but I have this deep rooted fear about penetration. The odd thing is that I have managed to deal with other aspects of my sexuality more successfully. Earlier this year I started seeing a very good professional dominatrix in London who specialises in adult baby and spanking fetishes. I’ve gained a lot of confidence since seeing her but in penetrative sex terms I would feel more comfortable making my first explorations with another guy. I’m currently weaning myself off anti-depressants at the moment and as these have an effect on my libido I’d like to be off them before I possibly plan a session with you. I’m not really sure what I’d want to do so maybe its something we could discuss. As I said i enjoy masturbation and using a dildo on myself so I think I’d enjoy being fucked. My mistress has suggested to me that I also explore submitting to another guy so maybe this is something we could talk about as well. I wouldn’t probably feel emotionally ready for that in the first place as I really need to deal with my bodies emotional and physical need to have sex first of all but I like to keep an open mind.