bdsm – Brotherhood of Pleasure

Hello Mr Cox, There were only two events in my life where I had experienced these spiritual orgasms. The experience was so immense it is hard to describe into words. Most importantly is recognising that it takes a lot of time to get there and worse of all it is not easy to remain in that state for a long time. Everyday living, the distractions cause you to come off that plateau.

I think it is best to describe how I got there and maybe words will come to describe it. It started off with a shower and making sure the insides are thoroughly clean. Lie naked on the bed with several pillows under your lower back raising your bottom slightly in the air. Legs are bent and spread apart like a woman in a birthing position with under the knees supported with more pillows. In this position one should feel comfortable and relaxed with no muscles feeling the strain to support your legs. Begin breathing exercises through the nose all the time concentrating on letting everything go, clearing your mind.

Carry on deep breathing while at the same time working on your chakras opening them up. Start with the head, moving down to the throat, down into your chest. At this point your breathing should be shallow and deep and slow and you would be feeling very relaxed.

The hard part is moving the chakras further below to the navel and eventually the groin area. Continual deep breathing is essential to eventually break open the groin chakra. One trick discovered was when breathing in, press gently your pelvic bone in a brush down motion to facilitate the opening of the chakra. While doing this continue to free your mind of thoughts and clutter and focus your eyes slightly to be receptive of a vast expanse of whiteness in the air like an aura. This works better outdoors if you have that opportunity. This is important as seeing this whiteness is the extra energy source which will flow into you and rapidly open up the groin chakra. Another trick discovered is at this point gently play with your anus until it fully opens as you breathe in.

If you have a vibrating butt plug, this will be the time to insert it while your groin chakra is opening. At this point while you are breathing in, you should experience a tingling sensation starting from the pelvic area and slowly spreading down your cock, and into your balls at the same time and finally a tingling from your perineum. Continue this for another twenty or more times until you reach a point that every time you breathe you really feel energy flow from the top of your body rushing down like a funnel into your groin area and flow out again through the perineum and down to your legs and feet.

While all this is happening, allow your mind to expand into this vast whiteness you have focused your eyes on and suck in this energy. This will increase the funneling sensations into your groin increasing the sensitivity before flowing out down your legs and feet. The heightened sensitivity by breathing in continually causing this rush of intense energy being funneled into the groin eventually leads to an internal orgasm ( all the time the vibrating butt plug is still going on). The internal ( spiritual) orgasm thanks to the vast whiteness of pure energy rushing through your chakras to a funnel sensation in the groin and out again is like a massive explosion sending waves of energy through every part of your body through your muscles and nerves heightening your sensations.

On both occasions this lasted for five to ten minutes as wave after wave continue to ripple through the body. The end feeling was one of wholeness, completeness, a sense of peace and calm and elation. After all this, the feeling remained for a whole day and the next day and then coming down to earth began to result. Also the first time this happened it took me four hours. The second time was two and half hours. Made me realise that you need to give it time to make it work but it sure was worth it. Trouble is who has two to four hours these days to spare to devote to this. No wonder many people forget themselves and their true inner self.

One final note, I strongly suspect the pantra will do a much better job than the vibrating butt plug as the massaging of the prostate and perineum simultaneously will maintain the funnel flow feeling. I have not found four hours yet to try this out but cannot wait to do it when I have the time. Mr D

For more years than I care to remember, I’ve always enjoyed having my body and/or genitals touched and massaged, especially by someone else. Their gender wasn’t an issue for me, it was what they were doing and how that made me feel that was the key factor.

I was a sensation junkie 🙂 Through this and my own explorations it wasn’t long before I realised that whilst I don’t suffer from premature ejaculation as such (though there are some who subscribe to the notion that ANY ejaculation before you’re ready, is premature), the fact that I do cum quickly can be a disadvantage. Having said that, it’s never been a barrier to me enjoying my sexual explorations, and I don’t have any particular problems with the situation. Yes, it can be frustrating at times, but it lead to one memorable session with a male friend a few years back, where I was made to cum 3 times in 9 minutes – that was fun!!!!!! I mentioned that I don’t really get sexually aroused by females, yet neither do I get turned on by males, transvestites or transsexuals.

What does work with me though, is reading about or seeing other men being sexually stimulated in various ways, and wishing that it was being done to me, especially if it involved them being teased until they were begging for release or made to cum again and again. In general, it was situations where I had no control of how or what was being that appealed, and it was in this context that I first explored the bdsm scene around 5 years ago. At the time I had little or no idea of what was really involved, but from a few bits I’d seen on the net, it looked as though this was somewhere I could realise those fantasies. As with many other things in life, surprises and revelations are to be found where you least expect them, and the bdsm scene is no exception. As a very nervous newcomer, the first thing that struck me was the sheer openness and acceptance that I was welcomed with.

The openness with which matters of a sexual (and sometimes personal nature) were discussed was quite an eye opener for me too. At the very first meeting I went to (this was in a pub, not a party or club) there was quite an open discussion about female genital piercing and clit rings 🙂 It was this openness and friendly atmosphere that gave me then confidence to talk about my own sexuality, and through this I came to understand that it didn’t matter that I didn’t really fit neatly into any particular pigeon hole, what really mattered was that I was “ME”

I found that for me, bdsm is not just about sex. It’s also about sensation. When I first started, I wanted scenes to incorporate some form of sexual contact, but that didn’t really happen. My first ever bdsm experience was a good sensual flogging (no sex), and I came away from that scene so satisfied and relaxed that even I found it difficult to believe, and I was hooked on sensation play. Since then I’ve had both sexual and non-sex scenes, and I would say be careful what you wish for…. I wanted to cum as part of a scene, and found someone who was willing to oblige. I was regularly flogged,whipped and caned until I was high on my bodies own endorphins, THEN made to cum…

I tell you something – within that context, it’s a sure way of stopping me cumming too quickly <lol After around three months of this (which was happening on an almost weekly basis) I found that whilst the sexual aspect was fun at first, I began to yearn for either a straight forward bdsm scene OR a sexual scene, but not both at the same time………. Hmmm…

I wonder what the young lady has in store for me this weekend <grin Through the bdsm scene, not only have I met some wonderful people, many I’m proud to call friends, but I’ve also learned one heck of a lot about myself too. Not just myself in terms of sexual matters either, but how I can improve not only my life and the way I live it, but help others around me improve theirs. I could probably write pages and pages about the bdsm scene and what I’ve got from it and put into it. As I mentioned yesterday, for me it’s not just about being on the receiving end, it’s also about giving. Giving part of yourself for the benefit of others. And that holds true whether you’re dom, sub, top or bottom.

The work you do with your clients is probably much the same, helping others in various ways. Catering for their sexual needs or desires that perhaps they may not get elsewhere. From an outsiders perspective, many would say that you gave, and I received.

However, I feel that the reality is somewhat different. It’s true that you gave me the freedom to express and experience desires that I was seeking, but it wasn’t all take. I also gave something, and that something was my trust and mental energy as well as my body, to enable and empower you to act upon those desires. Sorry if that’s a bit of deep thinking, but it’s part of the philosophy that I’ve come to understand from within the bdsm community 🙂 I’ve yet to fulfil quite a number of my fantasies, although some that I didn’t know that I had, have happened <smile Still, as a wise Mistress once told me, what else is there left when you run out of fantasies? May I thank you once again for your care, courtesy and hospitality, and for inviting me to write to you about some of my personal thoughts and experiences. I hope to pay you another visit some time. With best regards Brian_w